Divorce is difficult regardless of the circumstances, and often it is accompanied by heightened emotions and stress. Keeping the relationship civil between you and the other side can, in fact, change the outcome of your divorce. Thus, it is especially important to be aware of why it is key to choosing kindness.
The court
Even if you are not aware, the court will likely be watching and often informed on what is going on, including whether there is–what many attorneys label as a “difficult client.”
The problem with getting the label of “difficult client” is that often, first impression remain and if the court sees you as such, it may be hard to shake off the image of you as difficult.
The children
Perhaps the most important reason to keep a divorce civil is your children. When the time comes to discuss child custody and support, you do not want to enter the conversation with a reputation. In addition, parents should always focus on the children’s well-being first.
The future
Focus on the future because in the blink of an eye you will be divorced and beginning your new life. It is always best to begin relationships -including the one with your ex- in a way that is positive and likely to benefit everyone involved.
Getting along with your soon-to-be ex spouse has benefits that go beyond the individual relationship you have with them. Your children will certainly notice and learn from it, the court will be glad to see maturity on part of the parents and your future will be easier.